X & i both have a vice.
My mother's was alcohol. several alcoholics in my family.
Mine is food. I like to drink, but only socially. Never smoked weed or cigarettes - don't want to. Never taken any drugs that weren't Rx'd to me by a doc.
His vice is one of the main reasons i have doubts about our relationship surviving. well, that.... & 2 other reasons:
1.) he's really immature for his age. he's 30. he's getting better about it... but sometimes it feels like i'm with a 12 year old. -_-
2.) for almost the last year i've been thinking i'd be better suited to settle down with a woman. when i look into my head & see my future... i see myself coming home to a wife. her coming home to me. i've always seen that. even when i was in high school. it's a comforting thought. why not go after a woman instead of dating a man? as much as i bitch about X right now, he & i started out as friends. he was there to comfort me through the depression after mom passed away. we were friends for 3 years before i started to care about him in a romantic way. also, i've got a relationship kind of built with X & we are having TONS of stress in our lives... before i end something i need to make sure i'm ending it for the right reasons... i want to give us time to live in a MUCH less stressed environment for a while before i make any major decisions like this. after i move up north, i'm going to give it 9-12 months. see how it goes. the first few months of me being there don't really count in my book. we'll be in a new place... you know how that goes... for most people, when you move there are new opportunities... it's like a honeymoon phase. after a few months, the realities of your situation really start to surface. so, we'll see. if by October 2012 things are much better & i'm happy most of the time.... then i will live my life with X because that's what you do when you're happy with you're relationship. ^.^ if i'm still unhappy 50% of the time or so by the same time, then i'm going to go my own way, & find the woman of my dreams.